Sublime

there is a longstanding tradition in social psychology of viewing social relationships as sets of triads

Our goal then is to have a relationship where the positivity outweighs the negativity. That tipping point, according to John Gottman, is 5:1.

SAFE PEOPLE 1. Tend to express their feelings in moderate and reasonable ways. 2. Tend to be compassionate, understanding, and empathic when you share your feelings. 3. Show interest in you, what you are doing, and how you’re feeling. 4. Are willing to negotiate the relationship. They let you know if they feel there is a problem between the two of

frequency of defections on up to 10 per cent of interactions will have little or no effect on the average number of friends an individual will have; frequencies greater than 10 per cent will have a small effect on the overall number of friends, but will mainly reduce the number of strong and medium ties,

I estimate nine of 10 men who come into my office for help are also dealing with a low emotional IQ.

It’s a biological fact: men are more easily overwhelmed by marital conflict…

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After a fight, he is always the first one to apologize. He cannot recall his wife ever saying she was sorry for any of her behaviors. In spite of the constant conflict, Gary says he loves his wife and would do anything to please her.

these researchers were able to predict the fate of newlywed couples ten years later just by measuring hormone levels in their blood during their first year of marriage!