When He's Married to Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment

Attachments are really the life raft through life’s troubles.

Coming to consciousness is the key to emotional freedom. With consciousness comes awareness; with awareness, the possibility of action; with action, the opportunity for change; and with change, the option to make things better.

She understood that she wasn’t being blamed; rather she was being offered the opportunity to help her child. She was putting the needs of her son ahead of her own.

Narcissistic people often have difficulty enjoying children, unless the children are admiring them.

Lonely men can make do with lives focused on work and pornography and imagine that nothing is amiss. Lonely mothers can turn to their little boys for emotional support, not realizing the potential damage that can result.

Parents have a spiritual mandate to be guardian angels in the lives of their children. When parents lose sight of their spiritual mission and use their children selfishly, the children may develop emotional wounds that are significant and permanent. Parents must be willing to do whatever they need to do, including therapy, to rise to the occasion a

He becomes inhibited and timid. John Bowlby, a developmental psychiatrist, has done extensive research on mothers as a safe haven for an exploring child. He observes that, because an enmeshed boy is discouraged from exploring the world away from his mother, he ends up believing that he will never be able to make his way on his own (paraphrasing fro

A controller is frightened by women. He needs to be in control, because he doesn’t want ever again to feel the engulfment, the fear, the panic, and the rage that he once felt as a boy being forced to be submissive to his mother. He’s likely to choose someone who is dependent on him, not just financially but emotionally.

SAFE PEOPLE 1. Tend to express their feelings in moderate and reasonable ways. 2. Tend to be compassionate, understanding, and empathic when you share your feelings. 3. Show interest in you, what you are doing, and how you’re feeling. 4. Are willing to negotiate the relationship. They let you know if they feel there is a problem between the two of