No More Mr. Nice Guy

Be honest with yourself. ■Do not let anyone treat you badly. No one. Ever. ■Remove yourself from a bad situation instead of waiting for the situation to change.

Face difficult situations and conflict head on. ■Don’t do anything in secret. ■Do it now.

Guys becoming aware of why they unconsciously create so many barriers that keep them feeling stuck. A mortgage, a wife, a lack of a degree, debt, children—are all just excuses. Making significant life changes doesn’t require chucking all these things. It means seeing them for what they really are—excuses—and taking small steps in the direction one

order to start getting what they want in life, work, and career, recovering Nice Guys have to make the conscious decision to get out of their own way.

Due to their early life experiences, Nice Guys tend to be ruled by deprivation thinking. They believe there is only so much to go around, and if someone else already has a lot there is less for them.

You are the only person on this planet responsible for your needs, wants, and happiness.

They waste time, they procrastinate, they start things but don’t finish, they spend too much time fixing other people’s problems, they distract themselves with trivial pursuits, they create chaos, they make excuses.

matter what happens, you will handle it.

Be clear and direct. ■Learn to say “no.” ■Don’t make excuses.