Sublime

My belief, reinforced by twenty years of practice, is that in the course of establishing security, many couples confuse love with merging.

Craig says that Erin used to “chase” him for sex at the beginning and made him “feel wanted,” but now he feels continuously rejected. To Craig, Erin’s lack of sex drive is a direct condemnation of his worth as a man.

“How do I know for certain that a person is the right one for me?”

Oxytocin, a hormone and neuropeptide that has gotten a lot of press coverage in recent years, plays a major role in attachment processes and serves several purposes: It causes women to go into labor, strengthens attachment, and serves as a social cohesion hormone by increasing trust and cooperation. We get a boost of oxytocin in our brain during or

your old brain segregates all people into six categories. Is this someone to: (1) nurture, (2) be nurtured by, (3) have sex with, (4) run away from, (5) submit to, or (6) attack.

And, as the brain is a social organ and hardwired to stay connected, it’s not necessarily prone to letting go easily of a primary attachment. In the brain’s world, better to have a negative bond than the existential death of no bond at all. And so, even if you know deep down inside that leaving is the right thing to do, even if you have five times

The Passion Trap: How to Right an Unbalanced Relationship by relationship therapist and psychologist Dean C. Delis. This was given to me by