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Winnicott on the Qualities of a Healthy Mind and a Healthy Relationship
Maria Popovathemarginalian.orgHold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships
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the application of attachment theory to adult love.
Dr. Sue Johnson • Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
Just as Bowlby had observed, securely attached infants are distressed when their mother leaves them, but they show delight when she returns, and after a brief check-in for reassurance, they settle down and resume their play.
Bessel van der Kolk • The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
Dr. Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) has demonstrated through her clinical work and writings that creating true security in the relationship and recognizing that you are emotionally dependent on your partner on every level is the best way to improve your romantic bond.
Amir Levine • Attached: Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the science of adult attachment can help you find – and keep – love
The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships
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In 1944, Bowlby published the very first paper on family therapy, Forty-four Juvenile Thieves, in which he noted that “behind the mask of indifference is bottomless misery and behind apparent callousness, despair.” Bowlby’s young charges were frozen in the attitude “I will never be hurt again” and paralyzed in desperation and rage.
Dr. Sue Johnson • Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
Children have a biological instinct to attach—they have no choice. Whether their parents or caregivers are loving and caring or distant, insensitive, rejecting, or abusive, children will develop a coping style based on their attempt to get at least some of their needs met.