Sublime

FOR THE SAKE of clarity, I would like to reduce the discussion in these first five chapters to its simplest form. First of all, we choose our partners for two basic reasons: (1) they have both the

Gil had originally begun couples counseling with Barb to “fix” her problem. He claimed that she was depressed, angry all the time, and had no interest in sex. He reported that he constantly walked on eggshells, trying to make sure he never did anything to upset her.

“You should look for a chemistry that’s a six or seven and a compatibility that’s a nine,”

How to Motivate the Opposite Sex

The relationship began to shift when Karl came to see Danita as a “gift” whom he invited into his life to help him clean out his old issues around his fear of angry and critical people.

The crucial question at the depth of any relationship is not Is he crazy? It is What are the ways you are crazy? What parts of your life have been blocked by fear? How exactly do you self-destruct? In what ways have you not been loved?

Marriage is a mirror. By living so closely with another human being, you start to get a picture of what you really look like. You start to see where you need to adjust and change. This is why marriage is so effective at making people’s lives more rich and productive—if they adjust to the needed changes. Unfortunately, many expect marriage to be som