rob hardy

“One does not discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.”

— André Gide, 1925

my spiritual practice? oh you mean having hard conversations, stumbling & repairing, getting 1% better daily, accepting responsibility

Operating under an illness model of care doesn’t just carry powerful implications for the way we conceptualize perfectionism, it impacts the way we conceptualize every aspect of mental health. The slightest pang of sadness, a drizzle of frustration—we register any decline in positive emotion with an assumption of pathology. It’s a cultural tic. The

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True humility is the only antidote for shame.

"The truth is a mobile army of metaphors, metonyms, anthropomorphisms, in short, a sum of human relations which were poetically and rhetorically heightened, transferred, and adorned, and after long use seem solid, canonical, and binding to a nation. Truths are illusions about which it has been forgotten that they are illusions."

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emotions contain both wisdom and delusion, and by experiencing them without clinging on, we can integrate their wisdom and let go of the delusion.

1/ Boundaries are not saying no. Or making sure something doesn't happen. Or distancing. Or even letting yourself have wants in the face of others'. A boundary is simply "If you do X, I will do Y." Good boundaries: - don't require anything from the other person - are kind for the other person - bring you closer emotionally (i.e. you find the per... See more

shame is the aliveness killer

Changing the interpretation of the past is critical to controlling the future.