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The stage you are in determines much of what you notice in reality and the opportunities available to you.

And the higher stages you reach, the more you can tap into the stages beneath, meaning you have both the ability and wisdom to spot opportunities for varied versions of success and achieve them with grace as you move up the spiral.

The question

The point is that problems aren’t problems unless you have a corresponding goal. If you don’t have any worthwhile goal, you aren’t able to see the plethora of problems that, once solved, lead to a better life.

80% of living the life you want boils down to creating your own goals while most people are mindless slaves to society’s goals.

ease. If you want a successful business, relationship, or anything that is out of the norm, you must fundamentally change the goals your mind operates on by changing who you are.

The Five Steps of Emotion Coaching:

1. Be Aware of Your Child’s Emotions: Recognize your child’s feelings as opportunities for connection and teaching.


2. Recognize Emotion as an Opportunity for Connection and Teaching: Use emotional moments to bond with your child and impart valuable lessons.


3. Help Your Child Verbally Label Emotions: Assist your child

Phases of Love Bombing Idealization Phase

This is the “wow” stage. You’re praised, adored, and told you’re unlike anyone else (well, you are unlike anyone else, but still). Things feel effortless with this person, and they might say things like “I’ve never felt this way before” after only a few dates. It can feel magical, but it’s also moving at a

Change must be possible if you want to reach the next stage.

You need either the skill acquisition, resources, or environment that allows you to see the potential for change.

This corresponds to the concept of “horizontal development” in Susanne Greuter’s ego development theory.

In order to move up vertically (to new stages) one must acquire a suffici

that boundaries aren’t walls…they’re doors. Boundaries help us decide who we let in, and how. People who have been bombed can learn from a scary and often disheartening experience like this…become wise about who’s safe to let in, so that this doesn’t happen again.