psychology

I can give you examples and processes, but if you don’t have the ability to understand where you are and who you are, those won’t serve you much.

The path will be confusing.

It’s not supposed to make sense just yet.

When you’re doing something new, you aren’t supposed to be anything other than lost because you’re flailing in the middle of the ocean un

The purpose of education, at this point, is awareness.

Once you are stretched between two opposite poles (your old way of life and the new approach you want to take), you will encounter obstacles on the path.

If you are an aspiring writer, you may fall into the trap of perfectionism.

You start projects and then quit because they are never good enough.

With this specific obstacle, you would need to reframe

I personally like to think of self-development as an endless series of problems that, once solved, increase in meaning and complexity, making life more interesting as you solve them.

Since the majority of you are in stages blue through green, and since we are focused on our personal lives, these will almost always involve the big 3:

• Work

• Health

• R

Change must be possible if you want to reach the next stage.

You need either the skill acquisition, resources, or environment that allows you to see the potential for change.

This corresponds to the concept of “horizontal development” in Susanne Greuter’s ego development theory.

In order to move up vertically (to new stages) one must acquire a suffici

Ken Wilber’s Wake up, Clean up, Grow up framework for human development.

Wake up meaning becoming aware of your true nature beyond the ego—accessing states of consciousness beyond ordinary waking awareness.

Clean up meaning psychological healing through shadow work—addressing unconscious or repressed aspects of yourself that are causing unnecessary

These are the 4 “phases” to expect as you move from one stage to another:

• Alpha – Life is good and normal. There is order.

• Beta – Doubts arise as you enter a new phase. Doing the same thing only makes it worse.

• Gamma – You feel lost. Things are chaotic and turbulent. This is where you can get trapped and feel like there’s nowhere to go.

• Delta –

The stage you are in determines much of what you notice in reality and the opportunities available to you.

And the higher stages you reach, the more you can tap into the stages beneath, meaning you have both the ability and wisdom to spot opportunities for varied versions of success and achieve them with grace as you move up the spiral.

The question

Your values—beliefs, standards, points of reference, or other elements of identity—shape what is important to you and what is worth noticing.