psychology

Change must be possible if you want to reach the next stage.

You need either the skill acquisition, resources, or environment that allows you to see the potential for change.

This corresponds to the concept of “horizontal development” in Susanne Greuter’s ego development theory.

In order to move up vertically (to new stages) one must acquire a suffici

Ken Wilber’s Wake up, Clean up, Grow up framework for human development.

Wake up meaning becoming aware of your true nature beyond the ego—accessing states of consciousness beyond ordinary waking awareness.

Clean up meaning psychological healing through shadow work—addressing unconscious or repressed aspects of yourself that are causing unnecessary

Your values—beliefs, standards, points of reference, or other elements of identity—shape what is important to you and what is worth noticing.

Your life feels terrible because your mind is filled with beliefs that interpret it as terrible.

But here’s the truth that psychology points to:

You’re in the perfect position to change your life.

The point is that problems aren’t problems unless you have a corresponding goal. If you don’t have any worthwhile goal, you aren’t able to see the plethora of problems that, once solved, lead to a better life.

The self.

The strange loop of us thinking about our own consciousness in relation to others.

Meaning, when you understand what stage you’re in and the exact “conditions” you need to make progress, what seems impossible now becomes inevitable.

Your mind literally reconstructs how it processes reality.

Key Characteristics of Love Bombing

• Gushing compliments or ‘soulmate’ talk very early on

• Lavish gifts or grand gestures that feel out of proportion

• Constant texting or pressuring to always be available

• Pushing for big commitments quickly (moving in, future plans, saying “I love you” fast)

• Possessiveness, but presented as concern or protectiv

ease. If you want a successful business, relationship, or anything that is out of the norm, you must fundamentally change the goals your mind operates on by changing who you are.