on your 20s
Like many — dare I say, most — people in their early 20s, I find it hard to shake the feeling that my life is a pinball machine of relationships and opportunities that I’m hurtling through headfirst, knocking over bystanders and crashing into obstacles, unable to stop for long enough to figure out what I’m doing wrong. It is tempting, in this world... See more
rayne fisher-quann • No Good Alone
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whatever it is we want to change about ourselves, our twenties are the easiest time to change it. The risk is that we may not act now.
Meg Jay • The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
ugh but this urgency is so stressful it’s borderline paralysing
something to remind them that life is going to continue on past their twenties, and that it might even be great.
Meg Jay • The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
Being embarrassed is a choice
Swiss psychologist Marie-Louise von Franz called the "provisional life." ("There is a strange feeling that one is not yet in real life. For the time being, one is doing this or that... [but] there is always the fantasy that sometime in the future the real thing will come about.")
Oliver Burkeman • What if You Never Sort Your Life Out? | Oliver Burkeman
ask yourself this before you give up on that thing
youtube.comMany twentysomethings assume life will come together quickly after thirty, and maybe it will. But it is still going to be a different life. We imagine that if nothing happens in our twenties then everything is still possible in our thirties. We think that by avoiding decisions now, we keep all of our options open for later. But not making choices i
... See moreMeg Jay • The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
Advice for those in their 20s: “ten years from now, you need to be able to say that this is the life you chose, not one you settled for.”
A future that is created intentionally is more pleasant than one that is scrapped together by avoidance-driven choices.