When stumped by a life choice, choose “enlargement” over happiness. I’m indebted to the Jungian therapist James Hollis for the insight that major personal decisions should be made not by asking, “Will this make me happy?”, but “Will this choice enlarge me or diminish me?” We’re terrible at predicting what will make us happy: the question swiftly ge... See more
alternatives to asking "what's the right thing to do?" when faced with a tough decision:
"what feels most aligned with who I want to be?"
"what feels like the most loving choice, for myself and others?"
"what feels like the most beautiful choice?"