Perfectionism is easy to see on someone. Physically it is a rigidity in the musculature and there can be stunted tones in the voice. Mentally they are often second-guessing themselves, hesitant, and overly precise.
Joe Hudsonx.comPerfectionism is easy to see on someone. Physically it is a rigidity in the musculature and there can be stunted tones in the voice. Mentally they are often second-guessing themselves, hesitant, and overly precise.
In childhood, insecurity may look like the kid who is always nervous about doing their homework perfectly, getting perfect grades, or being the “good kid.” Obsession with perfection and devastated feelings at the smallest error are hallmarks of the detached child.
Adam Smith • Slaying Your Fear: A guide for people who grapple with insecurity
Perfectionism is a mindset that demands we perform as superbly as possible to be sufficient as a person. We conflate our goodness as a person with our performance in areas we care about—academics, our job, our social behavior, fitness, appearance, parenting, home organization, the list goes on.
Ellen Hendriksen • “If I Let Go of Perfectionism I Won’t Be as Good as I Am Now.”
Rigid-patterned people also have a strong sense of personal responsibility for keeping things in order and making everything right. Often this leads them to take on responsibility for things that are beyond their control and not really their job.
Steven Kessler • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity
Rigid-patterned people believe they are not allowed to play until all the work is done, and somehow, the work is never all done.