Slaying Your Fear: A guide for people who grapple with insecurity

The need for belonging twists into a form of fearful pre-rejection with the person experiencing an anxious aversion to the presence of others.

Own the mistake and ask for a way to make it right. Make amends, and move on with your life.

When I feel stressed, what calms me down? When I think of having a perfect day, what activities do I see myself doing?

If you are not learning successfully, do not assume you’re a complete idiot but rather assume that you are not learning in the right way. Seek out a teacher who can help you learn.

By expecting perfection now, an insecure individual will run screaming from every task, craft, or activity which requires any level of practice.

Just to put in perspective how impossible this is, the insecure person believes that they have to be born absolutely perfect and flawless in every skill, craft, profession, and field of knowledge.

Your returns to anxiety are actually opportunities for you to spread those new skills across your brain. When you feel yourself growing anxious, stop. Ask yourself what it is that’s making you feel that way. Congratulations, you found a new area to improve yourself!

The healthy person does not expect perfection. Instead, they pursue perfection. When they make a mistake, they figure out what it would take to be perfect at that task. This might mean looking to mentors for solutions, or reading

How much alone time in a week do I require by myself to feel calm and centered?