Every conversation has multiple layers. Some people hide behind masks. Others lie to others (and themselves). And others say one thing with their mouth and another with their body. It only takes seeing through one of these layers for somebody to call you a genius.
Every conversation has multiple layers. Some people hide behind masks. Others lie to others (and themselves). And others say one thing with their mouth and another with their body. It only takes seeing through one of these layers for somebody to call you a genius.
‘Oh, Dr Archer, people rarely say what they truly mean. It’s one of the first lessons of spycraft.’
Matthew Richardson • The Scarlet Papers: The Times Thriller of the Year 2023
People are puzzles waiting to be solved, but mostly unsolvable. We selectively and cautiously share our stories, observing social mores and cultural etiquette; we distribute ourselves and hide behind masks. It is hard to gather all the pieces back into one place, to peel away the facades and see the core beauty of another. Though difficult, it shou
... See moreTobias Mayer • The People's Scrum: Agile Ideas for Revolutionary Transformation
But the mask will often also show our real higher-self strengths in distorted or caricatured form. Beneath the love mask is a strong connection with true loving feelings. Beneath the power mask is a genuine desire to be effective and responsible in the world. And beneath the serenity mask is a profound ability to detach from personal melodramas. Th
... See moreEva Pierrakos • The Undefended Self: Living the Pathwork
When people speak in vague generalities and it’s a deliberate choice, you’re seeing manipulation
When it’s their default, habitual way of speaking, you’re seeing massive psychological defenses
One is about deceiving you, the other is about deceiving themselves*