Love, like desire, is only legitimate when it’s uncoerced and unobligated. Men believe in love for the sake of love, women love opportunistically. It’s not that either subscribe to unconditional love, it’s that both gender’s conditions for love differ.

Il est peut-être nécessaire à ce stade que je donne quelques éclaircissements sur l’amour, plutôt destinés aux femmes, car les femmes comprennent mal ce qu’est l’amour chez les hommes, elles sont constamment déconcertées par leur attitude et leurs comportements, et en arrivent quelquefois à cette conclusion erronée que les hommes sont incapables d’

He likes feeling needed. These female friends constantly tell him what a great “catch” he will make for some lucky woman. In spite of the way he treats women, he can’t understand why they all seem to be attracted to jerks rather than to Nice Guys like him.

For the majority of people, what they love exists only in the imagination. The object of their love is not the man or woman of reality, but what he or she is like in their imagination. The person in reality is just a template used for the creation of this dream lover.