What I Was Doing While You Were Breeding: A Memoir

But these were days of self-fulfillment, where settling for something that was not quite your first choice of a life seemed weak-willed and ignoble. Somewhere, surrendering to what seemed to be your fate had changed from being dignified to being a sign of your own cowardice. There were times when the pressure to achieve happiness felt almost oppres

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I’ll keep the story of my last fifteen years short. I went on my book tour, got divorced, had to learn to live alone for the first time in my adult life, struggled with some depression, frequently felt lost, learned to date in my late 40s, met a lot of great women, had a lot of sex (and couldn’t figure out on what planet I had landed after a fourte

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Today I will let myself be playful without worrying about whether it fits my image as a responsible adult. As a child in my addicted family, I was forced to hurry and grow up. I took on adult responsibilities, such as substitute spouse and/or substitute parent. As a result, I developed a serious approach to life at the expense of my sense of playfu

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