Your special loves are simply idols in which you seek to get what you feel is lacking in yourself. Romance is a vain attempt to fill an imagined emptiness — a hole that doesn’t really exist, but that you experience as a result of the separation.

In a love relationship, it often makes them reluctant to surrender into loving deeply and unconditionally. They are unconsciously afraid that unrestrained love will once again cost them their autonomy and obligate them to do whatever the Beloved says.15

For example, in my beginning relationships I always went too far and wanted too much. If I met a girl and we hit it off, I immediately began talking about her in terms of marriage—even after one date! Once she was in love with me, I expected her to take care of me like a mother. Needy children need parents, so adult children turn lovers into parent

This question reveals our insecurity, our fear, our anxiety around loneliness, and these