The Essential Guide to Overcoming Avoidant Personality Disorder

If you’re avoidant, you connect with romantic partners but always maintain some mental distance and an escape route. Feeling close and complete with someone else—the emotional equivalent of finding a home—is a condition that you find difficult to accept.

the avoidantly attached must build up tolerance of the vulnerability involved in opening up to close connection.

They rarely become an integral part of the team because that much attention and closeness frightens them. While the rest of the team works hard at bonding and growing together, the insecure individual seems to sit just outside the circle, refusing to enter.

Avoidants, it appears, are quick to think negatively about their partners, seeing them as needy and overly dependent—a major element in their view of relationships—but ignore their own needs and fears about relationships. They seemingly despise others for being needy and are themselves immune to those needs. But is that really the case?