The Art of Seduction

Start to see your lovers or dates as friends. Imagine how cool it would be if you could be 100 percent relaxed and authentic on a date! Try it out. Lighten up your romantic relationships by viewing your partner as a friend. Start by simply being yourself, and act as if you’re out with your friends. It may be tough at first, but it works. Relax and

Be a Source of Pleasure. This is critical. It is an obvious law of human nature that we will flee what is unpleasant and distasteful, while charm and the promise of delight will draw us like moths to a flame. Make yourself the flame and you will rise to the top. Since life is otherwise so full of unpleasantness and pleasure so scarce, you will be a

Even if there is a level of attraction based on the seducer’s appearance alone, this is superseded by her discomfort in having to deal with aggressive sexual advances from someone she doesn’t know or trust. It is best to not prematurely telegraph strong sexual interest until end-game.

You can’t force desire, but you can create an atmosphere where desire might unfurl. You can listen, invite, tease, kiss. You can tempt, compliment, romance, and seduce.