Platonic: How Understanding Your Attachment Style Can Help You Make and Keep Friends

A more expansive sense of interconnectedness rests not on texting best friends at one in the morning, but on reaching out to people that make a difference in our lives even though they don’t have to.

The procedure is based on long-standing research showing that the best way to build a friendship is to escalate self-disclosure gradually, essentially moving through McAdams’s levels. So you should begin with the relatively tame questions—say, “Who would you invite to dinner if you could pick anyone at all?—and take time to work up to the more inte

Think about each of your most treasured relationships, personally and/or professionally. Then answer these three questions: How did you meet, in-person or online? Do you communicate with this person exclusively in-person, online, or both? If either of these methods of communication were stripped away, would you maintain the relationship, or would i

Anytime we’re willing to take our conversations off the beaten path, we expand the territory of that friendship.