The fundamental tantric idea is that it's important to work with the strong energies of attraction and aversion, pleasure and pain, to facilitate awakening, rather than avoiding them. Why? Because avoiding desire, aggression, and socially taboo experience doesn't help; avoidance only deepens the trap of aversion and

Whatever discomfort you feel becomes useful. “I’m miserable, I’m depressed. Okay. Let me feel it fully so that nobody else has to feel it, so that others could be free of it.” It starts to awaken your heart because you have this aspiration to say, “This pain can be of benefit to others because I can be courageous enough to feel it fully so no one e

When we begin to realize pacifying, enriching, magnetizing, and destroying as the natural expression of our desire to work with the whole universe, we are free from accepting too eagerly or rejecting too violently; we are free from push and pull. In Buddhism, that freedom is known as the mandala principle, in which everything is moderated by those

In other words, whatever you are feeling, feel it fully, and then feel through and beyond it, so that sex becomes a constant feeling through and beyond every sensation, rather than focusing on any particular sensation.