Mating in Captivity
intimacy comes with a growing concern for the well-being of the other person, which includes a fear of hurting her. But sexual excitement requires the capacity not to worry, and the pursuit of pleasure demands a degree of selfishness. Some people can’t allow themselves this selfishness, because they’re too absorbed with the well-being of the belove... See more
Esther Perel • Mating in Captivity
partner we now struggle to eroticize.
Esther Perel • Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
Faced with the irrefutable otherness of our partner, we can respond with fear or with curiosity.
Esther Perel • Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
I am stating that emotional entanglements of greater or less severity (not necessarily culminating in technical infidelity) are very apt to occur in the best-regulated of marriages, and that there is no ideal way of handling them. Monogamy and freedom, concealment and frankness, all lead to unhappy consequences. The discussion is gloomy, however, o
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