The real act of, say, building a friendship or creating a community involves performing a series of small, concrete social actions well: disagreeing without poisoning the relationship; revealing vulnerability at the appropriate pace; being a good listener; knowing how to end a conversation gracefully; knowing how to ask for and offer forgiveness; k
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On Finding Your People:
I’m told I have an unusual talent for finding wonderful people. Below is my strategy for having a rich social life in any large city
Disclaimer: This will require you acting in a way that is not normal. You may need to decide whether you want to be normal yet lonely or unusual yet connected
0. Treat it as a second job.
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Forming and maintaining friendships is a big investment of time and energy.
Kat Vellos • We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships
We all meet people but we rarely take the time to follow up and actually begin a friendship. Analyzing eight million phone calls between two million people, researchers at Notre Dame found that what makes close friendships endure is simply staying in touch every two weeks. Now, you don’t need to connect with people that often if they’re not close f
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