Love Is Not a Permanent State of Enthusiasm: An Interview With Esther Perel
Alexandra Schwartznewyorker.com
Love Is Not a Permanent State of Enthusiasm: An Interview With Esther Perel
Any experience of love holds within it a dimension of dependence. In fact, dependence is an essential ingredient of connection. But it’s a producer of terrific anxiety, because it implies that the one we love wields power over us. This is the power to love us, but also to abandon us. Fear—of judgment, of rejection, of loss—is embedded in romantic l... See more
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