if it’s amazing to have been granted any being at all – if ‘your whole life is borrowed time’, as Cain realised, watching news reports of the Danforth Avenue shootings – then wouldn’t it make more sense to speak not of having to make such choices, but of getting to make them? From this viewpoint, the situation starts to seem much less regrettable:

And somewhere along the road you may discover that there is no such thing as the “right” decision. There is just the action you take and the new situation you face as a result.