F*ck Love: One Shrink's Sensible Advice for Finding a Lasting Relationship

very feelings prevent us from finding love. Researchers at the University of Toronto found through a series of studies that when we’re afraid of being single, we’re more likely to settle for less satisfying relationships.

First find a good match, then fall in love. Above all, don’t think you’ve “fallen in love” only to learn too late that it’s a bad match.

It is often futile to treat romantic problems by teaching communication skills, improved sexual techniques, or methods of “fair fighting.” This is what is wrong with so much marriage counseling. While all such teachings are valuable, and there is good reason to learn them, they rest on the assumption that the persons involved are willing to be happ

However, after years of practicing relationship therapy and counseling, I now believe that there are two basic personal requirements that both partners need to fulfill to have a long-lasting intimate relationship. Once these requirements are met, the basic psychological foundation is established. Although this is by no means a guarantee, it sure in