Everything Here Is under Control: A Novel
The problem lies in who is responsible for the want. It is your want, not his. You are responsible for getting it fulfilled. That is a rule of life. We do not get everything we want, and we all must grieve over our disappointments instead of punish others for them.”
John Townsend • Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life
After I detached and took responsibility for myself, I wondered if maybe other people weren’t the reason I hadn’t been living my own life; maybe they were just the excuse I’d needed. My destiny—my todays and tomorrows—looked pretty grim.
Melody Beattie • Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (Revised and Updated)
“No one to blame!... That was why most people led lives they hated, with people they hated… How wonderful to have someone to blame! How wonderful to live with one’s nemesis! You may be miserable, but you feel forever in the right. You may be fragmented, but you feel absolved of all the blame for it. Take your life in your own hands, and what happen... See more
He blames his dad for all the family’s struggles and focuses on taking care of everything his mother needs. She often leans on Eric and cries on his shoulder whenever one of her frequent boyfriends breaks up with her.