When you start to view challenging behaviour not as naughtiness which needs training, punishing, or discipline, but as a problem to solve together, the dynamic of your parenting shifts

Discipline works very well for some kids, but others internalize it as a devastating and corrosive form of criticism that eats away at their self-esteem. Apparently their son was such a child.

• Regulate your own emotions:“Our ability to self-regulate might have the biggest impact on who our child turns out to be compared to anything else we do”


• Connect with your kids


• Coach instead of punishing