björk said that trying to communicate through talking feels like trying to put the ocean through a straw
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björk said that trying to communicate through talking feels like trying to put the ocean through a straw
silence does much more than simply tiptoe around; its essence has little to do with the absence of sound waves. For Silence has no opposite. Its embrace is wide and generous enough to receive all, both sound and the absence of sound.
Martin Laird • A Sunlit Absence: Silence, Awareness, and Contemplation
True listening brings us in touch even with that which is unsaid and unsayable. Sometimes the most important thresholds of mystery are places of silence. To be genuinely spiritual is to have great respect for the possibilities and presence of silence.
John O'Donohue • Anam Cara: 25th Anniversary Edition
The concept of communication is sustained, generated by technology, so really with the Internet we attain the highest limits of communication. But what I would ask is, ‘Who is it that communicates?’ Who is it? There is one terminal and then another. There are two terminals, two specific areas of abstraction which change the information. But also, a... See more
Remember the Future • Tweet
The good listener knows that we’d ideally move – via conversation with another person – from a confused, agitated state of mind to one that was more focused and (hopefully) more serene. Together with them, we’d work out what was really at stake. But in reality this tends not to happen, because there isn’t enough of an awareness of the desire and ne
... See moreAlain De Botton • The School of Life: An Emotional Education
Only silence enables us to say something unheard of. The compulsion of communication, by contrast, leads to the reproduction of the same, to conformism:
So it’s not a problem of getting people to express themselves but of providing little gaps of solitude and silence in which they might eventually find something to say. Repressive forces don’t stop
Byung-Chal Han • Vita Contemplativa
Ask for Input from a Silent Member. If something is going on and she hasn't spoken up, does she have an insight or feelings about it? Is what has been unsaid the missing piece? Maybe she is attuned to the center. Maybe she is aware of the shadow. Might what she has to say be what the circle needs to hear? Or might silence be what is called for, and
... See moreJean Shinoda Bolen • Millionth Circle: How to Change Ourselves and the World: The Essential Guide to Women's Circles (Feminist Gift, from the Author of Goddesses in Everywoman)
Communication isn’t mystical. The words we speak reflect who we are: what we think, judge, feel, value, honor, love, hate, fear, desire, hope for, believe in, and commit to.3 If we think we’re not up to the task of living our lives, our communication will reflect this. We will judge others as having all the answers; feel angry, hurt, scared, guilty
... See moreMelody Beattie • Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (Revised and Updated)
To communicate with someone, we must connect with them. When we absorb what someone is saying, and they comprehend what we say, it’s because our brains have, to some degree, aligned.