Are we responsible for other people's emotions?
So you see, the “don't like” situation of “people in my social group criticizing me” was just a side-effect of Elsie's unconscious attraction to the emotional experience of anxiety/excitement.
Carolyn Elliott • Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power (A method for getting what you want by getting off on what you don't)
part.” The only problem with this noble viewpoint is that it is not realistic. It is almost impossible to be responsible for another person’s feelings and behavior. Everyone has normal ups and downs, but when his wife is on a down cycle the white-knight character is engaged in the good husband and sets out to rescue her. She may not have ever reque
... See moreDaniel Beaver • Creating the Intimate Connection: The Basics to Emotional Intimacy
Why should it be so hard to trace the origins of our rage? At points because what offends us is so humiliating in structure. It can be shameful for us to realize that the person in whom we have invested so much may not actually desire us physically, or may not fundamentally be kind, or could be exploiting us financially or gravely impeding our prof
... See moreAlain De Botton • The School of Life: An Emotional Education
Do not confuse with compassionate. A compassionate person may be what we call nice and polite, but compassion does not try to be nice and polite. Nice and polite come from conditioning. Compassion comes from the Heart and our shared connectedness.