Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
If our emotional needs were fulfilled by our parents, we emerge from childhood with a trust that others can give us what we need. We can then receive love from others without distress or compulsion. Our needs are moderate. We can trust someone to help fulfill our needs while we help fulfill hers. This provides a foundation for a life of compassion
... See moreDavid Richo • How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
All the critical parent messages I have discussed—“I should,” “I have to,” “I’ve got to,” as well as critical name- calling—yield only negative psychological outcomes. I don’t see any use for them. Most adults have been parented enough, and now it’s time to communicate intimately like an adult. This in turn will have a positive outcome in how we co
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It’s important to remember that our adult partners don’t owe us the selfless love that we wanted from our mothers. They have needs and limitations, and we are adults now, responsible for ourselves. That doesn’t mean you can’t have vulnerable feelings, even some needs that are rooted in infancy, but it does mean that your partner has a choice about
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