Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson

At every stage of our life span, our inner self requires the nurturance of loving people who are attuned to our feelings and responsive to our needs. They are the ideal sources that foster our inner resources of personal power, lovability, and serenity. Those who love us understand us and are available to us with an attention,…

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What happens to you as a child, growing up in a household that is either blind to your emotions or intolerant of what you feel? You must adapt to your situation. To ensure that you don’t burden your parents with your feelings or emotional needs, you push your emotions down and away. You become intolerant of your own feelings, and you try hard to ha

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If we missed out on attention when we were children, we might have learned to attend to ourselves, to become more and more creative, to look for attention from adults other than our parents. In this way, a deficiency became something beneficial, the pothole that became the portal. Likewise, our ability to reach out as adults may be directly proport

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In a good-enough holding environment in early life, I learn that it is safe to be myself, knowing and showing my deepest needs and wishes. This happens in a family with an embrace wide enough to include all of me. Given such a welcome in the world, I gain a sense of stability and coherence, and I develop a reliable source of self-support, a nurtura

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