john silkey
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john silkey
Parents think they can hand children permanent confidence—like a gift—by praising their brains and talent. It doesn’t work, and in fact has the opposite effect. It makes children doubt themselves as soon as anything is hard or anything goes wrong. If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children t... See more
Carol Dweck • Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
Catalyzing confidence
My culture does not honor the ancestors as a quaint spirituality of the past, but as a living source of strength for the present. They did it and so will we.
Ancestors and Wisdom
Thomas Cole’s 4 Seasons Voyage of Life
Healing trauma involves recognizing, accepting, and moving through pain—clean pain. It often means facing what you don’t want to face—what you have been reflexively avoiding or fleeing. By walking into that pain, experiencing it fully, and moving through it, you metabolize it and put an end to it. In the process, you also grow, create more room in ... See more
Choosing to Face Our Pain
From Positive Intelligence
“Given the ubiquity of the Judge’s conditional love game, I have
embarked on a very different kind of game with my son to prevent a
strong version of his Judge from taking hold. I start tickling him and tell
him that I will only stop if he keeps giving me the right answers, which
he has learned to give over the years. Here’s h
... See moreYou might be wondering at this point what comes after Finding. The answer is exploring and simply being. In a very real sense, people go from seekers to Finders and then on to explorers. Simply being in existence is amazing, and there’s no shortage of it to explore
Daily Review | Readwise
On a spiritual path working with different modalities that move forward in simplicity (though it may appear to be complexity - like mahamudra) the next question or feeling is often “ok I’ve done this, so now what?”
The question, as you move forward, morphs into “ok, so now how?”
The question ‘what am I doing’ loses its pull and interest. “How am I being” becomes much more alive, and focuses on the individual as a vessel connected to the whole, and therefore allowing that whole to come through based on how the individual shows up.
"I was waiting for something extraordinary to happen, but as the years wasted on, nothing ever did unless I caused it.”
—Charles Bukowski
No one benefits from you scrolling on your phone and feeling sad and then going to Starbucks.... See more
The antidote is figuring out what you care about, what you're good at, and what you like doing that can make the world a little bit better.
Then, really do that thing.
You can’t do everything, but there are a few things you can do really well. You have to
Alex Dobrenko • No one benefits from you scrolling and feeling sad
ii. 1/3 Concrete - tuning in to reality and senses and self
Part of the first steps. Go inward, have the courage to ask the questions and sit with not knowing. You must experience life in order to know. Not watch it like a spectator.
When we tell our kids, “You’re a good kid having a hard time … I’m here, I’m right here with you,” they are more likely to have empathy for their own struggles