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In addition, research has shown that it isn’t good for children to be the top priority in a household. We have a nation filled with children who feel entitled, can’t really manage for themselves, and can’t endure uncomfortable emotions because everything is taken care of for them.

She was thoroughly charming to him, but of course he theorized a little about his attachment. He was made of excellent human dough, and had the rare merit of knowing that his talents, even if let loose, would not set the smallest stream in the country on fire: hence he liked the prospect of a wife to whom he could say, ‘What shall we do?’ about thi

Remember, the idea is not to fight, and a good relationship is not about determining who is right and who is wrong.

children given so very many choices learn to undervalue them all, and hold out—always—for whatever elusive thing isn’t offered.

To avoid the bad feelings, the child slowly learns to identify only with what he thinks of as “good” and to deny anything “bad” as part of who he is. He actually starts limiting his identity to only include what he has come to believe is “acceptable” in the eyes of his parents. Yet another child may despair altogether of getting any good strokes fr

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outpouring of feelings will come with the process of healing wounds from childhood.

Children who are striving to feel safe when the world around them feels threatening, who are distractible, who have difficulty switching from one activity to another, who are easily aroused by novel stimuli, or who frequently misrepresent the intentions of others are prime candidates to use oppositional behavior to protect themselves and establish