Sublime

Just as your woman must regularly spend time with only women, you must regularly spend time with only men. At least once a week, get together with your men friends to serve one another. Cut through the bullshit and talk with each other straight. If you feel your friend is wasting his life, tell him so, because you love him. Welcome such criticism f

When a man’s value is no longer measured by what he does, by his finances or social standing, how does he determine his worth? In our new world, a man’s presence—his depth of awareness—is his most valuable asset. A man’s worth can be found in his depth of being. A shallow man, easily perturbed and swayed, is worth less to his woman and his world th

It was the idea of a “pathless path,” something I found in David Whyte’s book The Three Marriages. To Whyte, a pathless path is a paradox: “we cannot even see it is there, and we do not recognize it.”⁠1 To me, the pathless path was a mantra to reassure myself I would be okay. After spending the first 32 years of my life always having a plan, this k

The masculine principle, the intellect, then moves into service of the feminine principle, which is about intuition, listening and receiving rather than thinking, expressing and transmitting.

the ultimate father’s daughter, deeply identified with patriarchal values like reason, strength, and victory.

Some men fear the feeling of fear and therefore don’t even approach their edge. They choose a job they know they can do well and easily, and don’t even approach the fullest giving of their gift. Their lives are relatively secure and comfortable, but dead. They lack the aliveness, the depth, and the inspirational energy that is the sign of a man liv

That is what healthy masculine leadership means in the context of relational work. It’s about liberation of her love, not simply personal satisfaction. This is a primary masculine responsibility in any relationship with the Feminine—be it romantic, parental, or communal. The intentional decision to step into this role means that you are making the

The essential issue concerning oppression is not gender-based or race-based but egocentric versus soulcentric. In my view, the core problem with patriarchal (and matriarchal) societies is their patho-adolescent egocentrism, which generates economic-class oppression, not their conspicuous suppression of the feminine or glorification of the (immature