Sublime

Most of us have no idea what kind of partner will fulfill us long term.

“Put together a spreadsheet of all the women you’ve gone out with in the last year. Make a column for their name, how you met them, how you felt when you were with them, and what values you shared. You can include other details, too, but I don’t want a laundry list of their flaws or a ranking of their hotness.”

relationshopping”— searching for our mate like we’d search for a new pair of shoes. But treating potential partners like potential purchases gets us into trouble.

just learned, the more a quality can be compared, the more important that trait seems.

Go on dates with people whom you don’t necessarily think are a fit. That’s the only way you can figure out what you actually like rather than assuming you already know.