Sublime

When babies’ natural outreach toward their caregivers goes unmet, they also develop a felt sense, which is the feelings, sensations, and a bodily knowing that there is something wrong with them.

A MEM loses contact with himself. He is detached from his own feelings, wants, and needs. He learned at an early age to take care of his mother and to discount himself. This crushing of his emerging self in childhood divorces him from the soul of his individuality. His identity is lost.

Since my mother was struggling herself and locked into her own sympathetic and dorsal ANS responses, she was unable to provide steady attunement. As a result, my nervous system began to expect for my needs not to be met, for people to only be present part of the time, and for them to unexpectedly break off the connection. My mom’s personal struggle