Sublime

Reparenting ourselves can mean many things, but the central theme is that we are willing to challenge our critical, inner voice and to care for the child within.

If our mom or dad expressed doubt or disapproval for our creative dreams, we may project that same attitude onto a parental god. This thinking must be undone.

In reaction mode, our Adaptive Children tend to do the opposite of what we ourselves experienced. Intrusion breeds walls. Abandonment breeds intrusion.

He retired the belief that it was the pastor’s duty, particularly in the sermon, to prod the people into obedience. “Henry realized [that] the point was not to outline ‘correct’ doctrine but to motivate the audience psychologically.”18

The Self is the key to healing and integrating our disparate parts through its Compassion, Curiosity, Attunement, and other capacities. It is also the natural leader of our inner family, a guide through the adventures of life.

New rule: I am lovable. I examine my legacy and am doing my healing. I am learning about joy and finding it for myself. Devon: “My

John Bowlby, the British psychologist who explained how children attach to loved ones in stages, extrapolated that we unattach in a reverse process.