Sublime

Lars is a fairly typical Nice Guy when it comes to his needs. Nice Guys generally focus their attention on meeting everyone else’s needs while trying to be “low maintenance” kinds of guys themselves.

Remember, the Nice Guy is the one keeping score, and he isn’t totally objective.

•A man who takes good care of himself. •A man who is honest and transparent. •A man who can reveal what he is thinking and feeling. •A man who has integrity. •A man who can admit fault and laugh at himself. •A man who embraces his masculinity. •A man who has good guy friends. •A man who is comfortable with his sexuality.

The guys that guys envy, girls like.

represents a challenge to everything Nice Guys believe about what they must do to be loved, get their needs met, and keep their world calm.

The Nice Guy Syndrome represents a belief that if Nice Guys are “good,” they will be loved, get their needs met, and live a problem-free life.

Nice Guys frequently seek the approval of women, and convince themselves they are different from other men. They like to believe that they are not selfish, angry, or abusive—traits they link to “other” men.