Sublime

List the names of the three to five people (individuals or groups) who matter most to you in each domain of your life—in your work or career, in your home or family, and in the community or society. Write a sentence about why each one of these people or groups is important to your future and why it’s in their interest to aid you.

Just as surgeons must first learn anatomy, the future “Angst doctor” must first understand the relationship between the one who counsels and the one who is counseled. And, if I am to contribute to the science of such counseling, I must learn to observe the counseling relationship just as objectively as the pigeon’s brain.

following list reveals how many “threats” there are to client focus (and temptations for self-orientation): 1. Selfishness 2. Self-consciousness 3. A need to appear on top of things 4. A desire to look intelligent 5. A to-do list on our mind that is a mile long 6. A desire to jump to the solution 7. A desire to win that exceeds the desire to help t

The key lies in the felt experience of safety, and safety, from my family therapy perspective, is a boundary issue—an issue of distance regulation. You will not wall off and abandon me; nor will you intrude and try to control me. The neuroscientist Stephen Porges posits that feeling safety in another person with whom we interact consists of two imp

The first step is to own and admit them. Only then can we build floodwalls to moderate and manage our destructive urges.