Sublime

class, dance professor and pedagogy specialist Bill Evans said, “We are all having the same class, yet we are each having a different class.”

As the Yale psychologist Marc Brackett puts it, “Well-being depends less on objective events than on how those events are perceived, dealt with, and shared with others.” This subjective layer is what we want to focus on in our quest to know other people. The crucial question is not “What happened to this person?” or “What are the items on their rés

Who you think you are--your notion of "self"-- is a mere cartoon, just as your notions of other people are cartoon versions of them, but critically these cartoons form the touchpoints of narrative that bind together our mental models of the world and our place in it.

There are two Identity Traps: (1) the belief that you should be someone other than yourself; and (2) the assumption that others will do things in the way you would.

The way in which we usually project ourselves is made into a sort of formula: you start with a sense of being, putting yourself into a situation, slowly dissolving the edge, and then executing whatever is there.

We are (usually) the sympathetic hero of the story. In his speech to a graduating class at Kenyon, writer David Foster Wallace observed that there is “no experience you’ve had that you were not at the absolute center of.” We are each “lords of our own tiny skull-sized

You are selling perception, which comes from self-awareness. You are not a reliable observer until you calibrate your own sensors and see where things are throwing you off. I have a SawStop table saw where the blade must be exactly 90˚ offset from the stainless steel table top. Every time I tilt that blade for a unique cut, I have to reset the blad

All spiritual work is a matter of gradually learning to shift our self-identification (who we believe we are) to the higher self and to learn to identify, but not identify with, the mask and the lower self.