Sublime

himself into a rage. “These guys are focusing on the worst tendencies of some of the worst women out there and spreading it like a cloud of fertilizer on all women.” Ross reminded me of an old rhythm-and-blues artist who has been ripped off so much that he trusts no one. But at least there are publishing companies and copyrights in place to protect

Who is their spouse? Who are their influences? Who has been their favorite rep in the past? What would they be doing today if they had the day off? What is their favorite restaurant? What is their favorite television show? When did they decide to go into their profession?

One heuristic that has been of first importance to my work is missing, however, from the programs I have described in this chapter: To make interesting scientific discoveries, you should acquire as many good friends as possible, who are as energetic, intelligent, and knowledgeable as they can be. Form partnerships with them whenever you can. Then s

the first by the level of impulsivity and the anxiety dimension of the Experience of Close Relationships Scale (an index of how warm or cool your relationship style

Since all relationships, and especially those with strangers, are potentially risky (we don’t know quite how they are going to behave), the initial instinct will always be to run away.

Casanova was perhaps the most successful seducer in history; few women could resist him. His method was simple: on meeting a woman, he would study her, go along with her moods, find out what was missing in her life, and provide it. He made himself the Ideal Lover. The bored burgomaster’s wife needed adventure and romance; she wanted someone who wou

What is different is that modern life has deprived us of our traditional resources, and has created a situation in which we turn to one person for the protection and emotional connections that a multitude of social networks used to provide. Adult intimacy has become overburdened with expectations.