Mounica Veggalam
@mounica_v8
Life and leadership coach. Deeply curious about causing self-transformation for joyful accomplishment.
Mounica Veggalam
mounicaveggalam.substack.com
Ambition comes in two forms, one that precedes interest in the subject and one that grows out of it. Most people who do great work have a mix, and the more you have of the former, the harder it will be to decide what to do.
How to do great work, PG
Are You a Jerk, or a Liar?
usefulfictions.substack.com
Truth-seeker vs. Community seeker distinction as opposed to naming behaviors as rude vs validation-seeking
You don't build relationships talking about what you think. You build relationships by speaking yourself, and listening self; listening for the self there, not listening for the story there. If you listen for self, people will speak their selves. If you listen for crap, people will tell you their crap. If you listen for self, people will tell you t
... See moreIt seems to me that egos emerge in order to take care of our needs in contexts where we don’t trust the strategy of surrendering to the We. The paradox is that the presence of ego is often one of the main things in the way of the We being able to take care of our needs.
The intimacy in a self-transforming marriage
The image of an adult relationship that is genuinely intimate- sex-ually, but in every other respect as well-brings to light again the theme of reciprocity first seen in the interpersonal balance. Traveling once more over familiar psychological terrain, the evolution of mean-ing, in the interindividual ba
... See moreGreat artists don’t study art history to figure out what art to create. Great founders don’t analyze the market to figure out what product to build.
Naval Ravikanttwitter.comThat's in part because our beliefs about it not only help make the world what it is, but make us who we are.
No single overarching theory of truth can encompass everything we would wish from such a theory, and indeed truth is never finally known; but that does not in any way invalidate the attempt.
-ian mcgilchrist, Matter with things
Differentiation is the ability to maintain your sense of self when you are emotionally and/or physically close to others— especially as they become increasingly important to you.
Differentiation permits you to maintain your own course when lovers, friends, and family pressure you to agree and con-form. Well-differentiated people can agree without fe
... See moreThe We is responsible
One frame that I’ve found really helpful for creating continuity between I and We is this:
I am responsible for taking care of myself (my needs, desires, etc).
We are responsible for taking care of my needs, desires etc.
But you are not. You might want... See more