Mounica Veggalam
@mounica_v8
Life and leadership coach. Deeply curious about causing self-transformation for joyful accomplishment.
Mounica Veggalam
mounicaveggalam.substack.com
The We is responsible
One frame that I’ve found really helpful for creating continuity between I and We is this:
I am responsible for taking care of myself (my needs, desires, etc).
We are responsible for taking care of my needs, desires etc.
But you are not. You might want to help, you might be able to help… or not.
But the We always wants ... See more
Taking care of needs while being open to the We-ness.
The intimacy in a self-transforming marriage
The image of an adult relationship that is genuinely intimate- sex-ually, but in every other respect as well-brings to light again the theme of reciprocity first seen in the interpersonal balance. Traveling once more over familiar psychological terrain, the evolution of mean-ing, in the interindividual ba
... See moreYou don't build relationships talking about what you think. You build relationships by speaking yourself, and listening self; listening for the self there, not listening for the story there. If you listen for self, people will speak their selves. If you listen for crap, people will tell you their crap. If you listen for self, people will tell you t
... See moreone hemisphere's idea of truth is likely to be more fruitful than the other's. As we have seen in Part I, the aspect of reality revealed by the left hemisphere must be contextualised by being taken up into the broader, and deeper, overarching vision available to the right hemisphere; alas, when the left hemisphere takes the lead, it leads us astray
... See morePlace a penny on the middle of one of your tables in Space; and leaning over it, look down upon it. It will appear a circle. But now, drawing back to the edge of the table, gradually lower your eye (thus bringing yourself more and more into the condition of the inhabitants of Flatland), and you will find the penny becoming more and more oval to you
... See moreDifferentiation occurs by maintaining yourself in the presence of important persons, not by getting away from them. The difference between running away and walking away after you’re “unhooked” is a critical distinction.
(Passionate Marriage pg 64)
Great artists don’t study art history to figure out what art to create. Great founders don’t analyze the market to figure out what product to build.
condition your mind to see the possibilities, the potential in life. If we all did this, the world would be a very different place.