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Often, there’s a desire to cling onto how we thought life should go, sometimes until it outweighs the reality of how it is going — what makes us happy, versus what we feel should; what is truly stimulating or fulfilling, versus what we’ve been told should be chased and sacrificed for. A question I ponder is: How do we untether ourselves from the pe... See more
Rainesford Stauffer • It’s Okay to Outgrow the Life You Thought You Wanted
If you are fortunate or unfortunate enough to wonder:
“What should I spend my time working on?”
Then perhaps a better question is:
“Where am I most afraid to fail?”
When we’re avoiding some path because failure would destroy us, that’s often the path we need to go down.
Because if we aren’t afraid of failing, do we really care at all?
“What should I spend my time working on?”
Then perhaps a better question is:
“Where am I most afraid to fail?”
When we’re avoiding some path because failure would destroy us, that’s often the path we need to go down.
Because if we aren’t afraid of failing, do we really care at all?
Nat Eliason • Most Afraid to Fail
“For a few weeks, I started each morning by writing “What do I actually want?” at the top of a blank page.
It’s surprising how useful it is to keep asking the same question. Each time, my answer became more precise.
Once I knew what I wanted, I turned it into action steps.”
It’s surprising how useful it is to keep asking the same question. Each time, my answer became more precise.
Once I knew what I wanted, I turned it into action steps.”
jamesclear.com • 3-2-1: On attracting luck, taking risks, and the ineffectiveness of anger | James Clear
The thing I’ve learned over time is that friendships are not fungible—no two people are the same, obviously, but also you can’t replicate the experience of someone knowing you through a particular era of your life. You can never go back to that period of your life; you can never replace the people who witnessed you and supported you. To me, relinqu... See more
friends shape your identity
One of the most intelligent case studies in design is the Chinese tea cup. They’re made without handles simply because if it’s too hot to touch, it’s too hot to drink.
Humans naturally want to add more. Add a cardboard sleeve, add a warning on the outside of the cup, add a handle. The result of all these things never cools down the actual contents.
... See moreIf you do not know what you want, start with what you’re most afraid of. You might not know what you desire, but absolutely everyone knows what scares them. What is the opposite of that fear? What is the alternative outcome to your worst-case scenario? What is the best possible outcome for the thing that scares you most? That is what you want.
Brianna Wiest • When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal
Possibly the most counterintuitive thing in life is that if you’re tired, you can work out to gain more energy.
There’s one model of the world that goes something like: platonically and romantically we fall in love with people, and then we fall out of love with them. Romantic relationships end. Friendships drift apart. It’s very sad for some period of time, but everyone involved recovers and moves on.
There’s another model of the world that goes something li... See more
There’s another model of the world that goes something li... See more