partnership & reverent relations

expanded version of these ideas https://t.co/ptEbqajnKq

It’s crazy to me that our cultural desiderata for a marriage so wildly diverges from the realities of what I see Ppl are looking to fall madly in love and then “keep the flame alive” for a lifetime. But if “keeping the flame alive” means staying madly in love & having regular amazing sex, well…maybe only 1 out of 1000 couples are like that And so... See more

im slowly becoming more and more convinced that "love" is fundamentally like three different things for different classes of society

If anything I see myself as a consent-loving relationship anarchist. (as opposed to the origin of relationship anarchy, which was rooted in a naive non-consensual revolutionary attitude)

But the most crucial part of committing is *not needing other people to validate your schtick*. When you release others of the expectation that you need them to approve of you, when you say a little "fuck you, I'm having a good time" NOTHING you do will be cringe

experiencing this firsthand rn and it's very fucking cool

today, we talked about betrayal, and I said that betraying you would be betraying myself I love you more than anyone I’ve loved before, but I love myself more and it doesn't matter: either way, the result is the same

floored by the fact that he communicated this in advance god dayum

4 questions to ask yourself when you're making a profile on a dating app: 1. what do you want? 2. why are you here? 3. what kind of person (or kinds of people) do you want to attract? 4. what kind of experience (or kinds of experiences) do you want to have with them?