good questions

Executive performance coach Julie Gurner on the power of better questions:

“The questions you ask yourself will largely determine the answers you get.

“Why am I not successful?” You’ll get answers that berate you.

“How can I succeed here?” You’ll get answers that push you.

James Clear • 3-2-1: A recipe for unhappiness, the most valuable items in my home, and managing limiting beliefs

What’s working, and how can we do more of it?” Sounds simple, doesn’t it? Yet, in the real world, this obvious question is almost never asked. Instead, the question we ask is more problem focused: “What’s broken, and how do we fix it?

Dan Heath • Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard

Around 2019, my focus shifted from asking “who’s fucking with me?” to asking “how do I continue to fuck with myself?” Once you finally break away from seeing other people your most important puzzle to solve, then I think you can move on to more interesting puzzles, and eventually you put the puzzles on a high shelf, breathe in the air, and savor yo... See more

Talking about friendship with Heather Havrilesky

To initiate this step of creation, it is always good to move into a state of wonder, contemplation, possibility, reflection, or speculation by asking yourself some important questions. Open-ended inquiries are the most provocative approach to producing a fluent stream of consciousness: • What would it be like to … ? • What is a better way to be … ?

Joe Dispenza • Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One

How do you know? It’s a question we need to ask more often, both of ourselves and of others. The power lies in its frankness. It’s nonjudgmental—a straightforward expression of doubt and curiosity that doesn’t put people on the defensive.

Adam Grant • Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know

I think “And what else?” is the best coaching question in the world. It does two things: It extends the period of curiosity, and it tames your advice monster.

Big questions interrupt the daily routines people fall into and prompt them to step back and see their life from a distance. Here are some of my favorite questions that do that: “What crossroads are you at?” At any moment, most of us are in the middle of some transition. The question helps people focus on theirs. “What would you do if you weren’t a

David Brooks • How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen

Instead of asking: "Do you have any questions?", ask "What questions do you have?" The first almost always results in silence, while the second helps people feel comfortable asking questions.

What if you gave yourself the gift of inner acceptance? What would it open up for you?