Gatherings & Relationships
We need big brains to manage all the models
if you want a relationship to last a long time, somehow you have to keep the scar tissue from building up. And that's really hard. So, when there's an issue, you somehow have to resolve it where there is zero lingering animosity. Nobody is even a little bit upset. Because even a little upset, that scar tissue that accumulates, that never goes away
Talk Given by John Ousterhout About Sustaining Relationships
You have to clear out any lingering resentment if you want something to last
How to have more productive conversations
Anton Chekhov once observed that the worst thing life can do to human beings is to inflict humiliation. Nothing, nothing, nothing in the world can destroy the soul as much as outright humiliation. Every other infliction can eventually be withstood or overcome, but not humiliation. Humiliation lingers in the mind, the heart, the veins, the arteries ... See more
So many villain arcs begin from humiliation
closeness creates room for greater conflict
Love these questions from
@DrBradKlontz about our ingrained money scripts. Money misalignment can be a huge source of cofounder conflict if not resolved.
2 Go to parties. You can't even start to know what you may find on the envelope of serendipity. If you suffer from agoraphobia, send colleagues.
Black Swan author's rules for living - Boing Boing
Nassim Taleb on leveraging serendipity of social gatherings
To build a successful startup, you need to build a cult
To build a cult, you need shibboleths
That’s why deranged slack emojis and esoteric inside jokes are so crucial to company culture
In all seriousness - if you don’t have insane inside jokes, your culture is dying
Friendship is born at the moment when one person says to another: ‘What? You too? I thought I was the only one.’”—C. S. Lewis
The only way to connect with people on a deep level is to exposure yourself vulnerable.