evolution, change

impermanence reigns, incontrovertible

We create ourselves. The sequence is suffering, insight, will, action, change

psychoanalyst Allen Wheelis wrote in his 1973 field guide to how people change

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When we orient so much of our lives around a certain kind of life — whatever version of that we thought we wanted — it can be startling to realize we may not actually want that anymore. It’s another life transition, another means of becoming ourselves.

Rainesford Stauffer • It’s Okay to Outgrow the Life You Thought You Wanted

In our everyday 3D lives, we apply force to matter and get predictable results. We unpack groceries, chop garlic, and switch on a stovetop to boil water for spaghetti. These familiar objects appear to be inert. They do what you make them do. But this model doesn’t port to inner moves. In the subtle realms of mind and emotion, applying force creates... See more

“The trouble with human happiness is that it is constantly beset by fear,” Hannah Arendt wrote in her incisive Augustine-lensed meditation on love and loss, and nowhere is our happiness more beset by fear than in our fear of change.

Who will I become.LA Paul

Explores transformative experiences in life and decision-making, emphasizing the challenges of imagining future selves and the epistemic and personal changes that accompany significant life choices, particularly the choice to become a parent.

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holy fucking shit. everyone need to read this.

in decision-making for transformational experiences, the “epistemic wall” created by the massive change creates (1) unknown subjective value problem, and (2) the self-alienation problem (with present vs future self).

These moments where one world-system is dying and another is being born are experienced emotionally - as loss, grief, dissonance, confusion, excitement; socially - as contention, struggle, polarisation; and spiritually - as a breakdown in encompassing narrative, meaning and purpose, and a longing for home.

Jonathan Rowson • Now that you’ve found the others what are you going to do? - Emerge

That is all we have, this moment with the world. It will not last, because nothing lasts. Entropy, mortality, extinction: the entire plan of the universe consists of losing, and no matter how much we find along the way, life amounts to a reverse savings account in which we are eventually robbed of everything. Our dreams and plans and jobs and knees... See more

Maria Popova • Losing Love, Finding Love, and Living with the Fragility of It All

we are simply incapable of imagining ourselves on the other side of a profound change, because the present self doing the imagining is the very self that needs to have died in order for the future self being imagined to emerge.

This is why the profoundest changes tend to happen not willed but spawned by fertile despair — the surrender at the rock bo