You Grow from Your Edges

They support those choices by helping us: let go of the avoidance and fusion that narrow our alternatives (variation); specify through values work what it means for us to be successful (selection); practice and build helpful behaviors into habits of committed action (retention); consciously pick different approaches for different situations by bein

a willingness to be agents in shaping their lives. The world beckons to each one of us, challenging us to ply our talents and carve our own paths. As the existential philosopher and psychiatrist Viktor Frankl discovered during his World War II concentration camp internment, it is our voluntary action, and not what we’re forced to do, that determine

Trying to be less guarded, more resilient, and authentic does not preclude also trying, simultaneously, to change the structures that systematically assault our self-worth.

I am fascinated by what it takes to stay awake in difficult times. I marvel at what we all do in times of transition—how we resist, and how we surrender; how we stay stuck, and how we grow. Since my